Our Time Together

In November of 2011 my best friend Dan was diagnosed with a cancerous brain tumor.  I remember taking the call from him.  I remember the silence after he told me as I scrambled to find words, but as hard as I tried to say something, anything, the words would not come out.  I remember hanging up the phone and breaking down.  I remember how angry I felt.  As winter turned to spring, my anger was consuming me, I was miserable to be around.  I decided to begin running as a way to clear my thoughts and get out my frustration.

In early May of 2012 after returning from a road trip with Dan, his wife, and her family I was taken aback by seeing what cancer had done to my friend.  I began adding mileage over the summer as it was my grief therapy.  3 miles turned into 5, 5K races turned to 10K.  As the calendar turned to 2013 and Dan’s condition continued to deteriorate, I was not running as much; I was depressed.

In May of 2013, after 18 months of battling day after day, Dan passed away.  Once again, I took to running as a way to deal with my grief.  As a tribute to Dan, his wife had expressed interest in running the Fox Cities Marathon relay in tribute to Dan’s life.  I was honored to be asked and began training for my 5 mile leg of the race.  Training runs became our time to talk.  There were signs of Dan everywhere and I could feel him with me and hear his voice.  As we crossed the finish line in September, a great sense of pride was felt throughout our group, a nice tribute to a great man.  After our race, I still ran 4 or 5 times a week and continued to enjoy my conversations with Dan, but wanted to do something greater.  I looked within myself on one of my long runs and came to the realization; I am strong enough to complete a full marathon.  Several weeks later, on the 1st day of registration for the 2014 Cellcom Green Bay Marathon, I signed up.

Some days are harder than others, and you never know what tomorrow brings.  I have made this commitment to honor my friend and his family and continue to look forward to our conversations as I embark through this journey; I know I am not alone in this.  Dan, I miss you, love you, and most importantly thank you, but you know that, I told you this morning!

 

-David Nissen

 

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2 thoughts on “Our Time Together

  1. Well said David, as my brother you continue to show me strength in the most difficult times. I am so proud of you and how you have been able to keep Dan with you always!

  2. There are no words to express my gratitude for your love, friendship, and support. I know Dan will be with you every step of the way on the 18th.

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